Being in love can make you feel as if you can conquer the world. The sun seems brighter and the roses seem redder. It is a feeling that makes you believe there is nothing you can not do. The passion you feel for your partner burns white-hot.
And it may also be ruining your relationship.
Sounds absurd doesn’t it? I agree on the onset it does, but let’s dig a little deeper. When you first fall in love, it is often described as being “lovesick.”
That is because of the two main chemicals involved: dopamine, a pleasure inducing hormone and norepinephrine, a hormone similar to adrenaline which increases excitement. When they combine in our system, the effect is that heady rush we experience when we first become attracted to someone.
However, this rush of strong emotions is not permanent, so when it naturally fades, there are many who tend to think something is wrong in their relationship.
So, these individuals seek out other relationships in order to regain that dizzying feeling of pleasure and ecstasy. In a sense, they have become addicted to the rush of falling in love. They abandon many promising relationships in their infancy in order to bounce around from person to person in hopes of getting their next “fix.”
In reality though, mature relationships are those in which the initial rush of first love has been replaced by an enduring passion. This passion is built on a solid foundation of deep commitment and complete acceptance both partners have for each other.
Couples in mature relationships also understand their feelings of intense passion may ebb and flow, but their shared values, trust, respect, acceptance, and love for each other is the cement that bonds them together.
In your opinion, what are some other differences between young and mature love? Please share your thoughts with us by leaving a comment below!